The difference between you and who you want to become.
Habits that compose your lifestyle get you what you want to become.
The difference between you and who you want to become are the habits that compose your lifestyle.
If this is clear, you can go on with life. If you feel you need a more in depth explanation, read this.
You are thinking that it takes so much effort to get the ideal character you wish for.
You are thinking that it takes massive action for massive success.
You are thinking that you are not capable of becoming the person you desire to be.
These are all false believes! You only make this up in your brain because it wants to conserve energy. In reality, all you need are small daily habits that contribute towards the person you desire to be.
Most people dream to much and never get closer to the person they want to become. Taking action is needed. How? Again, all you need are small daily habits that contribute towards the person you desire to be.
Your success is the product of your daily habits - not a once-in-a-lifetime transformation. As a result, it does not matter how successful you are right now but whether your habits put you on the path to success.
-James Clear, Atomic Habits
Far too often people think that massive success needs massive action. Meanwhile, improving by 1% is not particularly notable but it can be far more meaningful in the long run.
The most powerful outcomes of any compounding process are delayed means that patience is required.
That is why you must forget about goals and focus on systems.
A goal is the result you want to accomplish. Systems deal with the processes that lead towards desired results. If you only focus on your systems and forget about your goals, would you still succeed? I believe so.
Problems with goals are:
Winners and losers have the same goals. That means that this cannot be what differentiates winners from losers.
It is only a momentary change. After you achieve your goal, you will fall back because of your system.
Goals can create an either-or conflict. Either you achieve the goal and succeed or you are a failure.
When you achieve a goal what do you do after? When you accomplish your goal, your motivation will drop, and you will slip back to your old routines.
Goals are good for setting a direction, but systems are best for making progress.
The problem with changing your habits is not you. The reason why you repeat the same habit for so long isn’t because you don’t want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change.
If you want to get to know the right system for change, check out my website!
There you will find a free e-book which explains the 4 laws of behavior change.
-Bendix Schroeder